When you hear the word “boudoir” you think lingerie and a bed behind closed doors. Nope! We LOVE to go to the beach on Lake Michigan. We go early in the morning while the sun comes up over the beach and before there are tons of people. We pick a quiet little dune and shoot til out hearts desire.
“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.” ~ Amy Bloom
So many women have a terrible relationship with their own bodies and I mean to put a stop to that. Boudoir photography (or intimate photography or glamour photography – it’s all the same) is the perfect way for me to do it. Every client I’ve worked with over the past seven years has been beautiful just the way they were and they’ve all loved the experience and how they looked in their photos.
There are more reasons to have your photos done than there are NOT to. My first back to work client had her photos done to surprise her husband on their wedding day. I’ve done sessions for anniversary gifts, birthday celebrations or milestone dates. My favorite sessions have been the ones where the client does it for themselves, those are the ones that make my heart sing.
“Acceptance” and “self-love” and “body positivity” are huge buzzwords/phrases in social media but nothing has changed in my opinion. The Kardashian/Jenner clan are still Photoshopping their photos to the point their own kids wouldn’t recognize them, but they aren’t the only ones. SM “influencers” are getting their lips and their boobs and their asses filled at an alarming rate – it’s to the point that everyone looks the same: poofy lips, permanently alarmed eyebrows, fake high cheekbones, huge badonkadonks on tiny bodies … there is no individuality on the Internet and that is SAD.
Boudoir photography isn’t about being a size three (no one is a size three and you can’t convince me otherwise, lol). You don’t have to be 23 or weigh 105 lbs … EVERY BODY IS A BOUDOIR BODY and we’ll prove it to you!
Photography isn’t about changing your looks. Photography is about having a memory you can hold in your hand that makes you remember how you felt that day. I edit your photos, but you will never look as though you weigh 30 lbs less or wear three sizes smaller. If you ask for that kind of editing, we’re gonna have a long talk, doll. I may not be the photographer for you.
Speaking of photographers, you should hire a photographer that you feel comfortable with. Don’t hire someone because of their pricing (high prices don’t necessarily mean good service and low prices don’t have to mean crap work). That’s why I like to meet with you BEFORE you book a session. It’s only fair that you get to see what a goofball I am, as well as see just how important it is for me to give you the type of session that will bring out the best in you.
I’ll answer all of your questions, including the ones you may not even know you have. I want you to feel comfortable with me because being in front of a camera, dressed in the tiniest of outfits will make you feel vulnerable and that’s SCARY! But Ipromise, by the time we’re done you’ll have had the best time of your life!
When my husband and I were rolling down the highway 30 years ago at 5am on our way to the hospital it never occurred to me that I’d someday be taking 30th birthday photos of the beautiful young woman that was my daughter.
Thirty years of love, laughter and joy. This kid is everything and more that I envisioned thirty years ago and I thank God for her every day.
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Finding outfits for your boudoir session is half the fun but sometimes it is hard to know where to start! Keep in mind these simple tips and recommendations and you will look amazing!
My girls all ask “What should I wear for my boudoir session?” Read on, babies, I have the answer!
I have a pretty healthy Boudie Closet designed to fit girlies of ALL sizes. I am always adding to the Boudie Closet, my jewelry selection and of course, those hot CFM (censored) pumps.
When we set up your session, you can take a look at what I have in-studio or order something to keep from my Boudie Catalogue (coming in January 2019)!
As with all things boudie, there is no one answer to any question. Things to think about:
- You don’t HAVE to wear lingerie to have a hot photo session – if you don’t feel sexy in something, you won’t look sexy in it!
- Bring black, white and nude panties in addition to your lingerie/wardrobe
- Bringing shoes? Save the “safe” shoes for church or that business meeting. If you don’t have killer stilettos, I DO
- Bring new or lightly worn lingerie (you don’t want those little balls or rips showing up in your images)
- Try everything on BEFORE packing it in your bag
JLReis Photography in Wisconsin has limited availability for the remainder of 2018. Contact me for details!
Birthdays, once you get to a certain age, are ALL milestone birthdays and if we’re smart, we find some way to celebrate ourselves. MsS was all for a funny Big Girl Birthday Session and she brought her A game. She is the master of hilarious facial expression and Prudence and I actually rolled around watching her.
She also managed to look incredibly gorgeous and I know she’ll be reminded of this birthday “party” for years to come.
Not everybody wants to “unleash” their inner sexy for our birthday or any other special occasion. That’s okay, we can document ourselves, our birthdays, our lives any way we want to, but …
Grown Up Birthday Photos Are the Best!
Document your birthday with photos to remind you just how incredible you are. That body gave birth to humans and it is SPECTACULAR.
Let’s be real, if we wait until we feel we look good enough to have our photos taken, they’ll never get done. I don’t know about you, but I’ve got all I can do to get all of my mail opened on the regular. If you’re thinking of having your photos taken, just DO it. You can wear as much (or as little as) you want and you’ll appreciate those photos on every birthday from now on.
Happy New Year!
2017 was a year of changes for me and for JLReis Photography. I know the people I want to reach and what I want to do with my business, it’s never changed since May 1, 2014, the official opening day of my first studio.
It’s my goal to make just ONE woman see their own, real beauty – just one, EVERY CHANCE I GET. I want to muffle the voices in her head that tells her she’s not beautiful, not worthy, not enough. If I can do that for that ONE woman, I’ll have met my goal.
The stories I’ve heard the past year, the sessions I’ve done, helped me see that women – ALL WOMEN – feel the same, no matter their age, shape or dress size. I know because I’ve felt, and sometimes to continue to feel, the same way.
But … no matter what life we live, no matter where we live, no matter what kind of work we do, whether we’re married or single, twenty years old or eighty, women are fucking forces of nature.
We face the shittiest days of our lives and we manage to get through – and help our loved ones through. We make shit HAPPEN. We are so much more than we allow ourselves to believe.
I am humbled by the stories you’ve shared with me … for you to open up to me and tell me your thought and fears and trust me to keep them means the world to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Happy new year to all of us, I can’t wait to see what we do and become in 2018!
While down with a killer case of the flu this past week, I’ve been hanging out on my mentor boards and revisiting classes I’ve taken in the past.
Whenever I look through my member list I think to myself how I’d shoot each and every one of you, whether it would be boudoir, glamour or a headshot; Many of you have photos with your daughters or moms, I think how lovely a photo would be for you; you are so beautiful in your own right and I know you all have a story to tell, a story that should be seen by other women and I think I’ve come up with a way to showcase at least ONE of you.
From now until Thursday Dec. 21, the CURRENT member that adds the most NEW members will win a FREE Valentine’s session (must be shot during the first week of January).
You will win an hour session, hair and make-up, professional posing assistance and 5 (five) professionally printed 4×6 prints. The session is worth over $200. The winner must also sign a model release so that I can use your photos for adverting; you CAN pose anonymously (see images below).
Contest closes Thursday, December 21 at 5pm and winner is announced LIVE, Friday, Dec. 22 at 9am.
Not a member? Join the VIP Group!
In keeping with Facebook rules, the winner will be notified via email on Thurs. evening, so be sure to email me and let me know that you’ve added your FIRST new member to get your name on the list and I’ll announce the winner publicly on Facebook
Reason #6: No one cares what you look like.
Isn’t that a shitty reason for a photographer to give? Isn’t that a terribly awful shitty thing for a photographer that says she’s trying to RAISE women’s self-esteem to say to a bunch of women?
I thought this reason was so important that it needed a whole damn blog post.
On the surface it sounds shitty, but think about it. Nearly everyone is so wrapped up in their own bullshit that they don’t have the time or the inclination to pay attention what other women look like. So we all sit in our heads and imagine what OTHERS are thinking of us, when in reality, no ONE is thinking of us.
Everybody has issues with their looks or their bodies, no matter our size. I’ve had thin-thin-thin women walk in and say they’re embarrassed for ME to see them, cuz they know they don’t look like my other clients. WTF? Of course you don’t look like my other clients, you’re YOU. Over the years I’ve had clients (hair clients, nail clients, etc) that have spent half their adult life obsessing on something that NO ONE notices but them: a slightly crooked tooth, the tip of a finger that bends just off true – HONESTLY, shit that NO ONE else notices. I’ve seen boobs that are one cup bigger than the other. I’ve seen broken toes that healed crooked. I’ve seen so many things that were so UNIMPORTANT that I can’t remember who they belonged to … because I have my OWN shit that I worry about.
Why the feck are we all so dissatisfied with the body that we live in? Why are ALL, yes ALL of us, so dissatisfied with the body God’s given us? We need to realize that we will NEVER be perfect: PERFECT is a MYTH.
When will we realize that no ONE but us sees those horribly “ugly” parts of ourselves but US? When will we realize that we are as beautiful RIGHT NOW as we are – RIGHT NOW!!! Those things we consider so offensive to the rest of the world don’t matter to the rest of the world because the rest of the world is obsessing with their own bullshit.
We need to accept our bodies as they are and peace with how we look. Having your portraits done will give you a incredible boost of confidence and the chance to see yourself in a new and different light.
Perceptions are amazing. In this day and age of “politically correct” thinking and the public’s outcry of “I am NOT judgemental!” I’ve found that people in general are more judgemental and women are MOST judgemental of themselves.
This first full session with Studio Rep Emily got us talking about first impressions, other peoples’ opinions and how we judge ourselves.
On any given day other people see us as we are THAT day, whether we are dressed for work, dressed for gardening or dressed for a quick run to the gas station for a gallon of milk at six o’clock in the morning. Anyone who sees us bases an opinion on us, whether they know us or not. I tell myself that it doesn’t matter, people who know me know that I don’t always look that way, but REALLY? Somewhere inside me I think everyone is stink eyeing me. Do you do the same thing?
The saying that you never get a chance to make a first impression isn’t as true as what we’ve been lead to believe, at least in a personal way, and never judge a book by its over has never been more true. We can recreate ourselves EVERY day. We can put ourselves out to the world and tell our story a day at a time.